Motherhood + Self Doubt
With motherhood comes a lot of things, one of them being self doubt.
The responsibilities that come with being a mother can, understandably, be seriously overwhelming at times. I mean, you have a tiny human who’s life is literally dependent on you! But ya know, no pressure.
As if that wasn’t enough, it is super easy to find ourselves comparing our parenting and overall life to what we see on social media. Things could be going great and you’re finally feeling good, until you scroll down your Instagram and see something that totally contradicts how you parent. Well if they’re doing it that way than my way just has to be wrong.
No no no. I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again. PARENTING IS NOT A ONE SIZE FITS ALL. Every single child is different- which means that every parent will parent different ways accommodating THEIR child.
Motherhood + Self Confidence
Let’s be real and let’s be honest. Giving birth takes a huuuuuge toll on a woman’s confidence. I know for me, I hated myself. I really truly struggled with my self image after giving birth. I hated looking in the mirror and tried to avoid it at all costs. I didn’t feel like me regardless of how hard I tried. I’d put makeup on and do my hair and guess what? I still felt horrible.
Putting aside the body dysmorphia and overall lack of self esteem or confidence, and you have the ever looming cloud of am I good mom? Am I doing the best I can for my baby? The overall lack of confidence affects not only how we feel about ourselves, but to the point we question even the smallest things in regards to our babies.
You see mamma, God chose you to be the mother of your baby. He trusted their life in your hands. You were quite literally made for this. It is the most natural thing you could possibly do. Mothers instinct is no joke.
Please, stop comparing yourself to those moms who seem to have it all together 24/7 and remember that you only get to see what they want you to see.
You are more than enough, and you are doing a great job. You put your babies needs above your own always, and that alone shows you’re doing it right.
We are our own worst critic, but it’s time to work on that. Own your life. Own your role as a mom. It’s the greatest role you could possibly play.
And on those days you feel you did nothing? Remember that you are a mother 24/7. You don’t get days off or breaks. I promise you that even on days you do ‘nothing’ you actually do more than you realize.
Take a deep breath. Love your kids. Love your spouse. And love yourself.