The Breastfeeding Movement that Needs to Happen

Don’t worry, this one doesn’t involve your boob hanging out for the world to see…

Breastfeeding + Controversy

Let’s start with some facts. Breastfeeding is quite literally the most natural thing a woman can do. It is the very reason we have boobs. That’s right guys, our boobs serve a purpose other than being there for your sheer pleasure and enjoyment. You might think that something as amazing as feeding your baby should be well respected and normal thing. Well you would be thinking wrong.

It’s been tested and proven that we live in a society where it is more acceptable to have your boobs hang out in a low cut shirt than it is to feed your baby. Don’t believe me? Watch this video. That my dears is just one of many examples I could give you.

Now, I understand people feeling a bit uncomfortable when a mom whips her boob out clear as day and you can see just as much as you would in a Game of Thrones episode. I get that, I do. But the majority of us are covered up and you couldn’t see our boob even if you tried. So why on earth do we still get the dirty looks and snarky comments? I’ll dive into my thoughts on the why shortly.

Breast vs. Formula

A tale as old time… okay not really but you get the point. The most obnoxious debate to date: breastfeeding vs formula feeding. Join any mom group and I guarantee you will see at least one post a day where a first time mom asks for information on either but in the comments an entire civil war breaks out over which is best. The constant fighting has led to the phrase of “fed is best” which is a pretty obvious statement, one would think anyway. But the truth is, it’s just not true and I believe its a damaging phrase that is turning new moms off to breastfeeding because they truly think formula is just the same.

The problem isn’t whether to use formula, breast, or both, but rather a lack of education and resources. Breastfeeding advocates are quick to shout “Breast is best” but not nearly quick enough to offer help and resources for those who need it. Instead of acknowledging the serious lack of help given to moms after birth and even before, they create movements encouraging women to whip out there boob for the whole grocery store (or wherever you are) to see. That does nothing to solve the problem.

Covered or Not Covered?

I’ll be the first to say that my little girl absolutely hates to be covered while eating. It’s not a pleasant experience for either of us. I’ll also be the first to say that no, you don’t have to smother your baby with a blanket while trying to feed him/her in public. It is so easy to keep covered with what you’re already wearing and how you position your baby that a person walking by would have to try really hard (and invade your personal space) to get a glimpse of your actual boob.

I’ll tell you a quick story of the time I worked at Gymboree. I was at the register and a lady came in to shop with her whole family. Several kids and the grandparents were tagging along while she shopped. When it came time for her to check out, the baby was crying so the grandma handed her over to mom. As I’m ringing up all the clothes, she pulls her shirt down and BAM her entire boob is just chillin’ there. Mind you I was pregnant at the time and already knew I would be breastfeeding. And still, it was kind of awkward because her boob was just… there. It wasn’t necessarily awkward for me per se, but I just felt the air in the store change and could tell the other customers were surprised.

The thing is, boobs are boobs. There will always be teenage boys and men who are going to look when they can. Yes, breastfeeding is natural and beautiful. Yes, it absolutely should not be sexualized. But it is, because no matter what we do, there will always be perverts in this world and I for one, do not want to give them something to look at.

The Movement

I’ve lightly covered the topic of breast vs. formula before (you can read it here), and if you’ve read that post then you know that I in no way shape or form have anything against moms who formula feed. Yes, I am an advocate for breastfeeding. No, I don’t think those who breastfeed are better than those who formula feed. Every person’s situation is different, and breast is not always best for everyone.

I do think that the “fed is best” movement is counterproductive and not helping anyone. It should be “informed is best” because it’s true! Breastfeeding is the best thing you can do for your baby to give them the very best start at life. Mothers should be making their decisions based on knowledge and facts, not a popular phrase floating around every mom group on Facebook.

To the breastfeeding advocates, get off your high horse and stop putting down mothers who don’t breastfeed. Formula feeding mothers, know that you are not any less of a mom and stop making every single “have you thought about breastfeeding” comment into a “oh you think you’re better than us” war.

Please, to all my mamas out there, join me in spreading the Informed is Best movement and start educating instead of tearing down! Much love as always!

 

Gabby
Semi-sane and overly-caffeinated. Happy mama & happy wife. Everyday is an adventure, so you might as well tag along!
11 comments
  1. LOVE this! I’m a week away from my due date with my first and while I plan on trying to breastfeed I know for some moms it’s simply not possible. That’s the way it was for my mom and I turned out JUST fine on formula. Doing your research is SO important because only you can make the best decision for your child!

    1. Oh how exciting and congratulations !! I wish you the best ♥️

  2. Breastfeeding is the best and it was unforgettable for me and I love every moment even if I’m in a hard situation thanks, God I had a husband that has a long patience.

  3. I agree, “Informed is Best” is a MUCH better phrase than “Fed is Best”. I never really ever used “fed is best” since I didn’t care for it. But I support all the mamas that opt to formula feed so I’ll be using this phrase from now on! 🙂

  4. So true, a mama needs to decide the way to feed her child basis the situation that comes across, I know of my friend, who couldn’t breastfeed her baby for more than 10 days due to insufficient milk. No matter the tactics she tried, it just wasn’t enough. She had to resort to formula feed so early and I simply adore and respect her. Important was her baby was well fed.

  5. Loving the positive comments under this post! Informed is best. Breastmilk isn’t called Liquid Gold for nothing 😉
    Great article, keep up the positivity 🙂

  6. So well said! I would consider myself a breastfeeding nut and yet, I formula fed my first, and EBFd my second. I was not fully informed or educated about the options before and could not make good decisions so I was at the mercy of doctors who don’t usually understand breastfeeding. Informed so that moms can make their own decisions for what’s best for them and the baby is best.

  7. Great post! People need to be more informed about this topic!!

  8. Americans are a culture of independent women. We do not have the same support systems in place as other cultures, as other families. It’s one of the reasons postpartum depression is so rampant in our country. I agree that Breast is best. But also as Americans we are even over educated. Too many moms read way too many blogs from people who are uneducated. Given that so many moms have no support at home, no support to breastfeed…. doing it all on your own can be down right difficult. And if formula does the job, then that’s okay. Your baby is fed and mom is still sane. Motherhood is the hardest, most rewarding job. No mom should be made to feel bad about her decisions. This is coming from a mom/baby nurse.

    1. Absolutely agree! There are many many factors that go into it all.

  9. My girl!!! I love this and there are so many women who need a voice. So many people including family just do not understand and are truly uninformed. I write about breastfeeding quite a bit and I tell you I feel like we need ambassadors to step up and speak up about an element of motherhood so important for our babies!

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