You’ve seen the videos on Facebook. You’ve heard of all the miraculous ways your life would change if you got it. You marvel at the mere sight of it and sit in contemplation every time you see an ad for it.
But then you see the bad things. You see that it’s difficult to clean, hard to assemble, takes too much time, and too expensive. With so many contradicting claims out there, what are you supposed to do?
Well my dear friends, that is where I come in.
My Expectations Before Using It
I tried to keep my expectations low, because I don’t like to be disappointed. Especially when it comes to items that cost a good chunk of change. Though I kept my expectations at bay, my hopes were sky high.
Before trying the Crosswave, my daily floor routine went a little something like this: sweep, vacuum, sweep again, mop, vacuum again, mop again, and oh look my floors are still dirty. I kid you not, I would sweep, vacuum, and mop, and you would still be able to see little pupper paw prints everywhere. It was literally so bad that I never let Lils crawl on the floor because they were never clean as they should be. Sad right?!
Needless to say, I needed the Crosswave in my life. My sanity basically depended on it.
Assembling the Crosswave
I want to make a quick little disclaimer and let you know that I do not assemble anything. Ever. That’s what husbands are for am I right?! BUT, due to my hubbs being out in the field, I didn’t have a choice. Who would’ve guessed it took me a whole two seconds!
Moral of the story: assembly is easy peasy, no tools or men needed.
First thing you should know, it’s pretty loud. My previous vacuum was on the quieter side, but this puppy scared the life out of my dogs, and my poor baby girl! However, it is pretty light weight, and swivels so nicely, I no longer have to move all my furniture.
Now for the puppy paw test; I went to the spot that had the most noticeable paw prints and started there. YOU GUYS. Literally my floors have never been as clean as they are now. I was instantly obsessed. I actually look forward to cleaning my floors now.
The Clean Up
Now, the majority of negative comments were in regards to the clean up process. But here’s the thing…..
I have no idea why. It’s as easy as can be. The Crosswave has two tanks, so the dirty water never meets the clean water. All you have to do is take out the dirty water tank and rinse it out. There is a lid and filter on it to rinse off as well but still. Super easy.
You also just pop the brush out, rinse that off and bam. Good to go!
The Bottom Line
I believe that the hype is true. It is honestly the greatest thing ever. It’s easy, it’s fast, and you can do it while holding a baby. The price may seem like a bit much, but I really believe it’s worth it, and can actually save you money in the long run!
I was hoping to get a video testing it out, but my floors weren’t showing up on camera. BUT. It is supposed to rain in a few days and when it does, my floors will be covered in muddy prints. I will get a video of it in action and post it to my Facebook Page.
Have you tried the Crosswave? If so, what did you think? If not, do you want to?
Kick the Monday Blues
Time to turn Mondaze into Monyay!
This Monday in particular is a special one for me, because I’m launching my top knot biz, and you’ll be able to shop right here on my blog! Also, my weekend was literally so crazy, for once I was totally looking forward to the grind of the week.
Now on a serious note, if you truly dread Mondays, ask yourself why? Is it your job? What exactly about the work week do you hate? I’ve come to the point in my life that if I’m not passionate about it, I’m not doing it. Life is way too short to be wasting away at a 9-5 that you hate. And you know what? We are so lucky. We are so lucky because we live in the age of technology and million dollar companies being built out of dorm rooms and one bedroom apartments. It’s possible, now more than ever, to be young and successful and not even have to leave your house.
Okay I got a little sidetracked (I know there is a boss babe in you waiting to shine, embrace it!), so back to makeup!
Putting Your Best Face Forward
Being a stay at home mom makes it super easy to slack off when it comes to yourself. I’ll admit that more days than not, I didn’t get out of my jammies or lounge clothes. My hair was pretty much permanently in a messy bun (and not the cute kind), and makeup was a major rarity!
The thing that I finally realized was, not getting yourself ready for the day is just going to make it that much easier to not accomplish what you need to get done. Get up, get dressed, put some makeup on (I’m not talking anything crazy like contour + falsies, I’m talking simple mascara + lipstick), and conquer the day!
Keeping it Simple: My Go To
When it comes to makeup and skincare, I really try to stick to organic products. HOWEVER, I am a total sucker for Maybelline. Maybe it’s because it’s the first makeup I got when I was allowed to wear it, maybe it’s because no matter the condition my skin is in, I know it won’t disappoint me!
I’m usually a matte person when it comes to foundation, and I try to steer clear of dewy foundations. BUT, Influenster sent me a VoxBox to try out the new Fit Me Dewy + Smooth and Master Prime primer for free. I did not think I was going to like it, because of my combination skin and the fact that I’m going through an oily spell.
Alas, I was so so pleasantly surprised. Honestly. It is now my go to, which had previously been the Fit Me matte foundation. It just gives the most natural glow, and the illusion I don’t have a crazy 9 month old. 10/10 recommend for all my fellow mammas out there!
I’m obsessed you guys. Literally, it takes me 5 minutes. Wash my face, primer, put foundation on with my beauty blender, and I’m ready to conquer the day.
If I have an extra minute to spare, I swipe on some nudes from may favorite Urban Decay palette! Now I want to know, what is your go to makeup product(s)?
**Please note this post contains affiliate links**
Oh snap, I’m pregnant. Now what?
After discovering you’re pregnant, chances are you turn to google to get as many answers as you can. With all the contradiction and grey area, you then turn to the trusty (and when I say trusty I say it with extreme sarcasm) Facebook Mom groups.
You make it a habit to read through all the posts, hoping someone has already asked the questions you currently have swirling around in your head, and that your answers are simply a comment thread away.
Should a problem or concern arise, your first instinct is to ask your trusty Mom group, what do I do? Should I be worried? and you’ll probably get a swarm of that happened to me and everything is fine, don’t worry about it and oh that’s totally normal, just lay down.
Now I’m going to tell you how much I absolutely hate seeing those posts, and why. 95% of the time, said posts are referring to reduced movements. You know what else kind of posts I see too often? We lost our baby today because something was wrong and I didn’t go in.
The single most important thing I have to say regarding pregnancy
Listen. You are in charge of keeping your baby healthy and safe. You know your body, and baby, better than anyone. If you feel like something isn’t right, chances are it’s because it’s not. GO GET CHECKED.
You can never be too safe when it comes to the well being of your baby. You know that old saying, better safe than sorry? That should be your mantra during pregnancy.
Lastly I want to address the reason the majority of women are so hesitant to get checked if they feel something isn’t right.
But what if it’s nothing? Well good if it’s nothing, we hope and pray that it ends up being nothing. You shouldn’t ever feel bad for going in to make sure everything is fine, because guess what? It is literally the nurses and doctors job to do so.
That is what they are there for, that is what they get paid to do. Don’t you ever feel bad or feel like you’re wasting their time because you want to get checked and everything ends up being just fine and dandy. I personally went to the hospital two or there times before giving birth because I felt like something was wrong. I was lucky, because each time everything was fine. And you know what? I don’t regret going in, I’m not sorry at all.
One more important thing, don’t you ever let a doctor or nurse, or anyone at the hospital, brush you off. I have read one too many heartbreaking stories about women being turned away and told they were just worrying for no reason and end up paying the ultimate price.
You go to the hospital when you have any concerns, and you do not leave until you are fully checked. Please remember, your baby’s life depends on you. Don’t listen to strangers on the internet, don’t listen to google, and don’t doubt yourself. They call it mothers instinct for a reason.
Are you a #bossbabe who is totally #hustling?
It’s all too easy to browse Pinterest and get lost in a sea of #bossbabe quotes. I don’t deny they can inspire an overwhelming sense of motivation… for about five minutes.
Sure, saving your favorite quotes and listening to your favorite motivational speakers is great, but if you’re just watching and listening… that’s where it gets not so great.
Hustling, or working your booty off, to make your dreams a reality takes muuuuch more than inspirational quotes, podcasts, and catchy hashtags. It takes actions. Rome wasn’t built on hopes and dreams, after all.
I’ll be the first to tell you that I often fall victim to the false sense of achievement you can get from ‘motivational’ speakers. They can make you feel like you are doing everything you can when in reality you’re not. I came to a point where I truly believed I was doing everything I could and now it would just take time for my goals to come to fruition, but boy oh boy was I wrong.
Acknowledgement + Acceptance
Once you acknowledge that staying stagnant is NOT doing you any good, and you can in fact work harder, the real hustling can begin.
One of my favorite people to watch is Gary Vaynerchuk (Gary Vee). He does daily vlogs and is uber successful. From books, to speeches, to investments, he also has his own company, VaynerMedia. He’s just all around an awesome, hardworking dude who keeps it blunt. He doesn’t hold back when giving advice, and has a talent for telling people what they need to hear rather than what they want to hear.
Got dreams? Start chasing them!
If you’re lucky enough and are able to be a stay at home mom, you have a wonderful opportunity to provide for your family in the best way. I’m so very blessed, because of my hard working husband I get to stay at home with our beautiful baby girl! It also means I have ample opportunity to actively work towards my goals and dreams.
Now, having ample opportunity doesn’t mean it’s easy to make the most of it. I had been stuck in a rut where I felt I was working a lot without getting the results I wanted. That’s when I decided to try out an 18 hour work day, and it made me realize how much time I was wasting.
I challenge you to break down your day and write out exactly what you do, and the time it takes you. I promise you have a lot more time to get stuff done than you think!
My results + the bottom line:
After my 18 hour work day, my previous record for most views in a single day had more than DOUBLED, and my average daily traffic increased by 800%!!! That single 18 hour work day had created so much momentum that for the days following, my views had utterly skyrocketed.
The bottom line, you absolutely can achieve the things you want in life, but it takes a loooooot of work. If you don’t work for it, it won’t happen. Everybody wants to live the millionaire life with minimum wage effort. That just isn’t going to cut it. Put in the work, and you WILL see results.
To further prove my point, I haven’t worked a single 18 hour day since, and guess what? I have not come close to any of the records I achieved that day, or even the days after. It totally showed me exactly what I have to do to get to where I want to be.
Please do yourself a favor and just try it out for one day. I promise it will open your eyes and you will be able to better figure out what and how you are going to reach your goals.
Read more: Staying Organized
Keeping the love flowing all month long- and by love I mean luxurious. Spread the love and whip up this super easy coconut butter for all your love bugs! ♥️
What You Need
- Organic Coconut Oil
- Essential Oil (I used Citrus Bliss, but you can use whatever you like)
- Mason Jar
- Hand Mixer
What To Do
Depending on the size of jar you choose to use, the amount of coconut oil you use will differ! For mine, (pictured above) I used about 4 heaping spoonfuls. Plop the coconut oil in a mixing bowl and lightly mix with your hand mixer. Next, add a few drops of Citrus Bliss, or the essential oil of your choosing. Depending on how light or strong you want the smell, you can add however many drops you want. Pro Tip: Adding vitamin E oil will make it extra luxurious and give it that super whipped texture.
Once you have all ingredients added, mix it with your hand mixer for about a minute, or until you reach the consistency you want! And just like that, you’re done!
What I Love About This
The versatility and simplicity of this recipe leave so much room for variation- which I looove! You can make this for yourself, or dress it up with some pink ribbon and gift it for Valentines Day.
Are you a DIY gifter, or a last minute Target runner? As much as I’d like to say I’m a plan ahead DIY gifter, I more often than not find myself making a last minute run to Target or Marshalls. If you end up trying this out with your own twist, leave a comment so I can see or tag me on Instagram!
Before we dive into some of my faves, I just want to assure you that I in no way live by these perfectly, but I do strive to! In fact, in all honestly, I’ve been seriously lacking in this area, and this is a great reminder. Valentine’s Day is around the corner, so I decided to keep with the theme of love/marriage/relationships. These scriptures are my personal favorites when it comes to the world of marriage! If you have some favorites that didn’t make my list, please leave them in the comments below, I’d love to check them out!
What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.
Okay my fellow wives, if you’re not feeling special as HECK right now, well, you totally SHOULD!
But enough about how the husbands ought to be. Time to take a look at my favorite scriptures pertaining to how we conduct ourselves as wives. It truly is how I strive to be, but of course am not there yet.
Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.have…: or, have gotten riches
Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.
Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
Food for Thought
As women, we rely on our friends for venting purposes. Anytime conflict arises, said friends probably go on about ‘you deserve better’ and are always quick to point the finger. But how often do we stop and look in the mirror? I know I don’t. I’d much rather dismiss the issue altogether. But what good does that do?
You see, when you work on yourself, you’ll start to see the circumstances around you improve. You can’t expect your spouse, or anyone else, to change when you yourself remain stagnant. Work on yourself and strive to be the best version of yourself, and I promise those around you will do the same.
To my husband’s single friends,
Hey there. It’s just me, your “bros” wife. Some of you know me, some of you do not. Some of you have joined us for dinner. Some of you have had one too many and stayed over, so I took care of you under our roof as if you were my own friend.
But some of you don’t know me, which I guess makes it easier for you to continue on as if my husband isn’t actually married. Your judgement and way of thinking is clouded by what you deem is your right as a man to have ‘bro time’ and you toss around the phrase ‘guys will be guys’, and dismiss my objection to certain activities because I’m “just a jealous girl”.
I get it, who the heck am I, anyway? You’ve known him longer, which bares more weight than a silly little title, right?
You see, here’s the issue. Marriage is sacred, and to be respected. Not only by those in it, but also those around it. You may think what you’re sending and encouraging him to watch is just a ‘man thing’ and it’s not a big deal. Well, it is.
And no, it doesn’t make me ‘insecure’ or ‘jealous’, it makes me smart and protective of my marriage. My values and views towards marriage stem from my faith and viewing marriage from a biblical standpoint. Which is very contrary to today’s society’s views of marriage, and just relationships in general.
Now of course, it is absolutely his job as a husband to tell you he doesn’t want to see those things, but the point is he shouldn’t have to tell you. You, being a friend, should respect the boundaries that come a long with marriage.
Marriage is a beautiful, difficult, messy, happy, ever evolving relationship. There are many triumphs, and there are many trials. It teaches you a lot, whether you want to learn or not.
On another note, I want you to know I sympathize with you. I know it can be hard when your friends are married and starting families of their own, and you are still stuck in your high school ways. That’s what your other single friends are for. Relate to them, send the erm, ya know, stuff to them, not your married friends. It’s disrespectful to us as wives, and it’s disrespectful to marriage as a whole.
Relationships are hard work. The more unnecessary hardships you can avoid, the better. There’s nothing wrong with taking precautionary steps, and it’s not because women are crazy. We are smart, love with all our might, and protect what is ours.
Please to all the single friends out there, understand it’s not you, it’s just how marriage works.
** this was written as a general statement for women as whole. I wrote from the perspective of friends and strangers alike, who have dealt with this frustration due to the overall way relationships are handled in this age**
Starting a blog with the goal of monetizing it doesn’t have to be expensive or difficult! I learned the hard way, and have tried it ALL. If I can help just one person take the easier route and learn from my mistakes, then I’m happy to do so!
The Basics: Hobby vs. Income
One thing you want to keep in mind when starting your blog is whether or not you want to turn it into a source of income. Doing it as a hobby is also perfectly fine, in fact that’s how most bloggers start out. However, how you start your blog can make a huge difference on how easy (or difficult) it is to make the switch to monetization, should you ever choose to do so.
The most important things you need to start with to put your best foot forward is a domain, self-hosting, and a platform to build your site on. You have those three things, and you have monetization capabilities!
Owning your own domain is sooo important. Brands will not take you seriously or reach out to you for collaborations if your site is something like yourblogname.wordpress.com or yourblogname.wixsite.com. Why is that a turn off for brands? Well, because it means you don’t actually own your site. You are extremely limited with what you’re able to do. Brands don’t want limitations! They want to work with bloggers who are in complete control of their site. Buying a domain is super simple and super cheap! There are many places to buy domains so prices vary, but I bought mine for $12 from Google.
Choosing a name is probably one of the hardest parts of starting your blog, and registering a domain can make that even harder, because what you have in mind may already be taken. If that’s the case for you, play around with different things because if you were set on yourname.com but it is already taken, you can try yourname.blog, yourname.us, or even yourname.biz. There are so many options out there, so just make sure to take the time to play around with it until you find something you like!
Being self hosted sounds pricey, but it’s actually suuuper cheap! Like, $3.95 a month cheap. You want to be self hosted for multiple reasons, one being control. When you are self hosted you have complete ownership and freedom over your site, and you can monetize it however you choose. Another reason you want to be self hosted? The tech support! Unless you actually have a degree in computer science, or have a natural knack for technology, you’re going to run into some issues eventually.
**this post contains affiliate links, for more details see my disclosure page**
There are definitely options when it comes to self hosting, but I firmly and adamantly believe SiteGround is the BEST. I would not consider myself techy at all but I do try, which is why it was important for me to find the best tech support out there. Another fun fact is that I absolutely loathe talking to other human beings on the phone, so when I discovered SiteGround offered 24/7 online support I was hooked. They also get back to you ridiculously fast, like I don’t think I’ve ever waited longer than 45 seconds for someone to get back to me.
Another major bonus? Say you start out blogging as a hobby, so you go with a free wordpress.com site. Well, when you decide to make the switch to monetization, the lovely support team at SiteGround will transfer your site to wordpress.org (which is what you need once you’re self hosted), free of charge! How great is that?
A Platform to Build Your Site On
You bought your domain name, you set up your account with SiteGround, and now you need a platform to design your blog! I suggest (and use myself) WordPress.org. SiteGround actually gives you the option to download WordPress right after setting up your account with them. If you happen to have a hard time downloading the software, you can talk to SiteGround support and they can walk you through it!
I’m going to be upfront with you and give you a heads up that getting the hang of WordPress can be difficult, and it is true that Wix is easier to navigate for those that are not techies. HOWEVER, WordPress is the blogging platform and it is absolutely worth it to stick with it and learn what you can. There are endless amounts of articles and YouTube tutorials for every little thing you need to know.
PLEASE NOTE: WP.com and WP.org are two VERY different things. WP.com offers the free version, but they also offer plans you pay for. Those plans do NOT give you the same freedom as self hosting AND those plans are MUCH more expensive.
Domain name: $12 (mine was on the expensive side, you can definitely find a domain for under $10)
SiteGround Hosting: $47.40
Platform to build site: FREE
Grand total: $59.40
Possibilities = endless.
We’re moms. We’re also human. That means we lose our sh*t sometimes. And that’s okay, but if you find yourself losing it a bit more than you should, well, take a breather a read on to find out five simple steps to keep your cool.
Start your day on the right foot. How you start your day really is a good indicator for how the rest of your day is going to go. If you happen to start your day on the wrong foot, that doesn’t mean you’re entirely doomed to have a horrible day, but I’m not going to lie to you, it will definitely be harder!
How can I start my day on the right foot? Well I’m glad you asked! Take ten minutes for yourself in the morning. Put on your favorite songs or podcast while you get ready for the day. Think positive and verbalize how you want your day to be.
Write it out. Don’t give life an extra opportunity to make you flustered when you forget the million and one things you need to do. Have an agenda, or even a simple notebook or to-do list. Organization is key to smooth sailing and keeping your cool.
Read more: How to be Organized & Stay on Track
Morning Pages. Try as we might, we are women and we are highly emotional creatures. I, more often than not, make decisions based on emotion rather than logic. Thankfully, I have my husband who is more logic and less emotion to balance it out! Nonetheless, what to do with all that emotion (that we sometimes don’t even realize we’re bottling up)? Just journal it.
There are endless ways to utilize a journal, and different methods work for different people. One of my favorite methods is known as Morning Pages. All it is, is starting your day by writing out THREE full pages of whatever comes to mind. You write and write until you fill up three pages. This method really helps you pin point your emotions and thoughts that you may not even realize you had.
However, you don’t have to do it first thing in the morning, you can actually do it whenever you feel yourself losing it! Instead of freaking out verbally, take all those emotions and thoughts and write them down! Instead of word vomiting on your spouse, word vomit in your trusty notebook, and I promise you will feel much better!
Meditate. Not the sit criss cross applesauce and say “hmmmmmm” repeatedly kind of meditation. A simple and quick kind. I found this super cool (& free) app called Headspace. You can set up daily reminders and it completely walks you through what to do. You just press start, sit down, relax, and listen! I though it was going to be kind of silly, but I actually really enjoy it and really does help put you in a chill mood. I highly suggest checking out!
Acknowledgement + communication. Acknowledging your emotions (especially when you’re on the verge of losing it) is SO important! Trying to dismiss emotions does nothing beneficial for you, and will only tip the iceberg much sooner. Communicating how you’re feeling with those around you might just be all it takes to save you from losing it!
Save yourself, the people around you, and follow these steps to keep your cool!
Motherhood + Self Doubt
With motherhood comes a lot of things, one of them being self doubt.
The responsibilities that come with being a mother can, understandably, be seriously overwhelming at times. I mean, you have a tiny human who’s life is literally dependent on you! But ya know, no pressure.
As if that wasn’t enough, it is super easy to find ourselves comparing our parenting and overall life to what we see on social media. Things could be going great and you’re finally feeling good, until you scroll down your Instagram and see something that totally contradicts how you parent. Well if they’re doing it that way than my way just has to be wrong.
No no no. I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again. PARENTING IS NOT A ONE SIZE FITS ALL. Every single child is different- which means that every parent will parent different ways accommodating THEIR child.
Motherhood + Self Confidence
Let’s be real and let’s be honest. Giving birth takes a huuuuuge toll on a woman’s confidence. I know for me, I hated myself. I really truly struggled with my self image after giving birth. I hated looking in the mirror and tried to avoid it at all costs. I didn’t feel like me regardless of how hard I tried. I’d put makeup on and do my hair and guess what? I still felt horrible.
Putting aside the body dysmorphia and overall lack of self esteem or confidence, and you have the ever looming cloud of am I good mom? Am I doing the best I can for my baby? The overall lack of confidence affects not only how we feel about ourselves, but to the point we question even the smallest things in regards to our babies.
You see mamma, God chose you to be the mother of your baby. He trusted their life in your hands. You were quite literally made for this. It is the most natural thing you could possibly do. Mothers instinct is no joke.
Please, stop comparing yourself to those moms who seem to have it all together 24/7 and remember that you only get to see what they want you to see.
You are more than enough, and you are doing a great job. You put your babies needs above your own always, and that alone shows you’re doing it right.
We are our own worst critic, but it’s time to work on that. Own your life. Own your role as a mom. It’s the greatest role you could possibly play.
And on those days you feel you did nothing? Remember that you are a mother 24/7. You don’t get days off or breaks. I promise you that even on days you do ‘nothing’ you actually do more than you realize.
Take a deep breath. Love your kids. Love your spouse. And love yourself.